I don’t think that accepting the fact that men and women communicate differently breaks the rules of gender equality. In order to strive to become equals we must first respect and try to understand each other’s shortcomings and try to also understand the motivation behind each other’s actions, whether they are non-verbal or verbal. I don’t think that there is any harm in acknowledging any of these things. I don’t think that this takes away from being a feminist in any way.
A feminist today is someone ( male or female) who wants women to be on an equal playing field as men in the workforce as well as in society. Although women have broken down barriers and in doing so, have accomplished numerous goals that have enabled us to have a voice that deserves to be recognized and heard, we still have a long way to go in order to be considered as capable in different aspects of culture and society as men. I would say that being a feminist 40 years ago differs somewhat than being a feminist today but not terribly, because no matter what decade you are trying to advocate women’s issues for, you still have the same goals in mind, however I think that trying to make people see and accept these goals was a lot harder back then than it is now. I think that women are still fighting everyday for things such as equal pay, because even in 2008 women are still paid less than men, we are fighting to protect our bodies, our contributions to our community and society and many more. Unfortunately, because of close-minded people we still need to fight and I think that we should always be fighting for equality until it is ultimately achieved.
I don’t necessarily think that the social representation of what it means to be a man has changed, I think that men will always be associated with courage and strength, they will be considered the protectors of the family and this is because society has projected this to us and dictates this stereotype to us through the standards that they hold men to from the time they are able to associate themselves it has to be with the color blue, race cars and trucks and GI Joes.
Yes, it is usually a bad thing to be macho, because it is usually a pretty extreme thinking that women are inferior to men. Unfortunately, there is still such thing as a male chauvinist and we are seeing them matriculate in this upcoming election, speaking out on how a woman won’t be able to perform the duties of the President of the United States as well as a man can.
I think that the acceptance of alternative lifestyles is something that we assume would be more accepted by females, rather than males, which in a way plays on the socially constructed role of people automatically thinking that a male has ultimately been seen as intolerant and macho, so in this way I think that it does slightly change the basic differences between men and women.
It is always interesting to learn about the differences between men and women, but I think that it is important to note that they are just that, differences, and these differences are what set us apart as human beings. So no matter how big they are, it is dually important to accept these differences and also try not to underestimate or overestimate each other because of them.